Pick Up Artist

It’s a common misconception that the most important part of meeting and being successful with women is the initial opening. First impressions are everything with women and if you fail in the first few seconds she will pretty much lump you in with all the other guys who are not going to see how she looks in the morning.

Yet, the opening is also the simplest and quickest part of the entire interaction. The most important part is actually what follows directly AFTER the opener. Anyone can walk over with a friendly smile and say “hello” to a girl or group of them. What instills fear in the hearts of most men is the “what comes next” part. Now that you have gotten her attention, how do you keep it and keep it in a way that she’ll find you attractive. Behold the entire “pick up artist” industry.

One school of thought advises you to have rehearsed situational or canned lines that can act as openers in a wide variety of situations. From opinion openers to questions to cleverly constructed stories and many other techniques, each has a useful place. Some are genius, others are retarded. But, the opening is just that…an opening for what comes next.

Another school of thought encourages “natural game,” or just being yourself and learning how to naturally interact with the girls without the help of canned lines and scripts. However, if you just being yourself worked every time, you wouldn’t be studying natural game or any form of pick up. You wouldn’t have to.

However, natural openers have their place. You do not have to worry about memorizing and delivering lines that could cause more nervousness than nothing at all. But using those lines is what often times leads to more confidence in the first place.

To tell you the truth…I am sick of all the feuding between natural and non-natural game. It’s stupid. They both work in different situations and if you limit yourself to one you’re lessening your chances. Why pick sides. This isn’t Democrats vs Republicans for God’s sake! Learn them both!

In my experience, situational openers are always the best. If you can identify with something going on around you and bring it up to her in a way that is clever or helps to continue the conversation you have a pretty good shot. But this takes practice and being good at following up.

One of the best openings I’ve ever used is walking up to a couple girls with a genuine smile as if I’m really surprised and delighted to see them and say “Hi, y’all have friendly faces.” (”yall” works well in Texas). This works on many levels simply because it does not compliment their looks or assume their attitudes are friendly. It compliments the vibe they are giving off and they often don’t know how to react…in which case there’s usually a smile and a thank you. I follow it up with telling them it’s refreshing to see girls out looking like they’re having fun and not just making fun of other girls at the bar. In most cases they’ve been doing that so you’ll see a guilty look on their faces.

This opener works like a charm in many situations.

I’ve also got a special place in my heart for using magic tricks as openers, but not in the way that most people would think. I’d sit on a hot poker before I would walk up to a girl I want and ask her to watch a magic trick. There is a very subtle and effective way to use magic as an opener.

For instance, doing a “proximity open” in which she is standing within eye shot of a visual trick like a levitating dollar bill, napkin, credit card, etc. I’ll be nonchalantly performing a trick in her line of sight for someone else and happen to catch her looking at me. I’ll wink and smile and 9/10 times she’ll actually approach me.

Or I’ll do a trick for a friend of mine and I’ll have him pull in the girl or one of her friends to where we’re at. This is where most idiots lose it and start acting like a dancing monkey. Instead of complying, become the “reluctant magician.” Play it off, tell them it’s a trick your grandfather taught you and then say “Fine, but I expect a talent show from each one of you if I can pull this off.” That makes it seem like you didn’t come out to do magic.

When you do a trick that impresses, it will immediately set a fun tone and allow you to ask for something in return. Sometimes I get drinks bought for me, other times I’ll tell them to take me to a corner and show me their hidden talents.

Here’s the point…my first opener was a “natural” opener and my second one was magic, or a gimmick, or a pre-planned opener. By refusing to limit myself to one style, I become more flexible to other situations. However I must admit, there is nothing more fun than doing a proximity opener with magic and having her come open me. I live for that!