Pick Up Artist

Are Pick Up Artist Right?

January 23, 2009

1) Your confidence become dependent on women.

The pattern most guys in the pickup community have is that their sense of confidence depends on how women treat them. So if women reject you, you feel down. If you got a phone number from a girl, you suddenly feel happy.

This is very destructive because your identity becomes centered on women.

SOLUTION: You must base your identity on your core strengths. Find out what is unique about you and find something that you excel in. Once you find something that you excel in, you will have confidence that is NATURAL as opposed to having a fake confidence that women can instantly detect.

2) You have an imbalanced life.

This may sound strange but it is true! The majority of guys in the pickup community become consumed by pickup. They start to see every kind of woman’s behavior as some kind of technique or tactic that they must analyze.

In short, I have seen the pickup community and its teachings lead many guys to have an imbalanced life. Some have quit school or lost focus in their jobs because they were so consumed with learning all these pickup teachings that really weren’t helpful for them.

SOLUTION: You must have a life OUTSIDE of pickup. Don’t let pickup to be the center of your life. Instead, start enjoying hobbies and passions outside of pickup. You will start to see your confidence and interactions with women improve because you will have a more solid identity.

So starting today, look for your inner qualities that you excel in and base your confidence on that. From that core confidence, you will find yourself having MUCH more success with women for the short long and the long run.

3) You are NOT being yourself.
Most of the time, pickup gurus tell that you have to be someone else in order to be successful with women. They condemn any type of your unlocking your unique personality to attract women.

They constantly tell you that your natural personality is unattractive. This may seem true but the truth of the matter is for thousands of years, humans have been mating with other human beings by being themselves.

Humans didn’t have pickup tricks and techniques back then. Thus, a lot of what today’s pickup community believes is flawed and it actually destroys your skills with women.

SOLUTION: Practice on just being yourself by really embracing your true personality with women.

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